April 18, 2011

Food for Thought


... There are moments in life when you really miss someone. And you wish you could just pluck them from your dreams... and just hug them for real. If someone loves you, love him / her back. If someone hurts you, love him / her back unconditionally. The irony is not that love hurts sometimes; it’s the fact that the cut of each is felt equally as deep.


The best kind of friend is the one that you could sit on a porch and swing with, and never say a word... then get up and walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you’ve ever had. It’s also true that you never know what you’ve been missing until something or someone else arrives. It’s true that you never know what you’ve got until you lose it... a careless word may kindle strife. A cruel word usually wrecks a life. Timely words help level stress. But, it’s loving words that heal and bless.


The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything in life... perhaps they’re just good at making the best of most everything that life brings along their way. Tender moments aren’t really tender at all. They are some of the few times... when things like pride and gender are swallowed and you allow yourself emotional, spiritual, and physical happiness. It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return. It’s even more painful to love someone and... never find the courage to let that person know just how it is you feel.


Never say goodbye if you still want to try. Never give up when there’s hope to go on. Never say you don’t love them... if you know that you’re the one that can’t let go. You’ve experienced true love if: you’ve taken away the feelings, taken away passion, and taken away romance... only to find that after all that, you still care. Giving love is no assurance love will be returned. So don’t expect it. Wait for it to grow in the other’s heart... just in case it doesn’t, be content in knowing that the love was able to grow in yours. 


If you have God in your life, food on your table, a roof over your head, clothes on your back, reasonable income and, love and faith in your heart... be happy and glad. For anything else that life can offer is nothing more than La-La-La...

April 4, 2011

Book Smarts or Street Smarts Better at Work?


When it comes to succeeding in business, which is more important: book smarts or street smarts?


In a televised social experiment, Donald Trump put this question to the test. During the third season of "The Apprentice," he divided contestants into two teams: those with just a high school diploma and those with college and graduate school degrees.


In the end, though the "street smart" folks made an impressive showing, it was a "book smart" contestant who walked away with the prize.


In real life, it's harder to say who comes out on top.


Take Sarah, a successful investment manager who was competing for a portfolio manager job against a Harvard MBA. Sarah had an excellent track record and had done very well in her interview; still, the other candidate was chosen for the position.


"I went to a community college then finished up at a city branch of a state university," Sarah lamented. "I just couldn't compete with the luster of a Harvard MBA."


But wait -- the story doesn't end there. Four months later, Sarah got a call from the company that had rejected her. The Harvard MBA hadn't worked out after all, and they wanted her to join the firm -- at a salary $10,000 higher than the maximum point of the range they'd initially discussed.


That was five years ago. Today Sarah has advanced up the ranks and earned her MBA at Wharton. A hedge fund director, Sarah now makes numerous hiring decisions herself.


"An MBA from a top-drawer university is great to have and, all things equal, may be a tiebreaker," she says.


"However I don't measure candidates as much by their education or years of experience as by their achievements and results."


To be sure, the world is full of college dropouts who achieved great things.


Dell Computer founder Michael Dell dropped out of the University of Texas; Oracle Computer founder Larry Ellison and Apple Computer founders Steve Wozniak and Steve Jobs (who went on to create neXT and Pixar) also left school to follow their dreams. Even Bill Gates dropped out (well, Harvard, but still he dropped out) to form Microsoft.


And it's not just the techies who eschewed college and made good. Wayne Huizenga, former owner of Waste Management, CEO of Blockbuster Video and owner of the NFL Miami Dolphins, NHL Florida Panthers and Miami's Pro Player Stadium, left Calvin College after just three semesters.


Some moguls even left college involuntarily. David Geffen (founder of Geffen Records and Dreamworks SKG) flunked out of both the University of Texas and Brooklyn College, and media mogul Ted Turner was reportedly kicked out of school.


Others such as Sir Richard Branson, founder of Virgin Records and Atlantic Airways, never bothered to go at all.


Anecdotal evidence shows a solid foundation of street smarts (personal drive, people skills and the ability to communicate and sell) is essential for any successful business person. Add to that experience and education, and you have a recipe for success.


"Neither book smarts nor street smarts is as helpful as a rich relative," jokes Tim Knox who decided to forgo college and today is the founder and president of four successful technology companies.


"An advanced degree -- especially from a prestigious university will definitely open doors, but in the end, it really doesn't matter how much education, experience, talent, luck or money you have. It's what you do with it that matters."

April 1, 2011

10 Tips for Making Better Presentations


Making better presentations is an evolving skill. These 10 presentation tips might assist you in creating presentations that have more impact on your targeted audience.


1. What is the Purpose of this Presentation?
Is this presentation to sell a product?  Are you teaching a concept?  Are you presenting an argument for a cause?
Many presenters make the mistake of trying to incorporate too many ideas or a variety of topics into one presentation. This only serves to confuse an audience. You need to clearly define the primary reason for this presentation, and there should only be one key message, a message that is important to the audience.


2. Who is Your Audience?
This step works in conjunction with the purpose of the presentation.  Do you know the level of the audience's expertise on this topic? Are they the "doers" in a company or are they the primary decision makers? Perhaps there will be competitors seeing what you have to offer.
Do your homework and research any information you can gain about your prospective audience. Tailor your content with all of these factors in mind.


3. Make it Simple
Compose your presentation with "Threes" in mind. Break it into three sections.
- Beginning: Tell them what you are going to tell them. A brief overview of what today is all about.
- Middle: Tell them. The middle section is the most detailed. You should break this into three sections as well. Three points about your topic and expand further with three items about each of those points.
- Conclusion: Tell them what you told them. Summarize your content.


4. Edit, Edit, Edit
Be brutal when you edit your content. Although you know everything there is to know about this topic, you do not want to demonstrate all this knowledge. Remember that you are focusing on one key point or area. Think of ways to keep the audience interested.
- Use photographs that have an impact.
- Use simple charts that explain your point. Pictographs are very effective.
- Keep your language simple. Avoid "techno-speak".


5. Learn Keyboard Shortcuts
If you plan to use PowerPoint in your presentation, it is a good idea to learn pertinent keyboard shortcuts to quickly navigate to specific slides if necessary. With a few quick clicks you can access the information you want with ease and avoid fumbling around trying to locate the information.


6. How Do You Sound as a Presenter?
Do the ultimate test for yourself before the big day. Record your voice while you run through your whole presentation. Then play it back to hear how you would sound to the audience. You might be surprised.


Note - There are many free sound recording software titles available to use for this task. If you are using PowerPoint as an aid in your presentation, you can simply use the record feature as a test and delete the recording once you are happy with the result.


7. Rehearsals Are Not Just for Broadway
It is surprising how many people fail to properly rehearse their presentation. They might go through it once or twice and think all is well.  Keep in mind that you are not your best critic. You know your topic and it all seems clear to you, so that is not a proper test.
A good practice is to rehearse in front of a few colleagues or friends who have limited knowledge of your topic. Be willing to accept their constructive criticism, as they are the best audience to tell you whether your material is clear, and interesting.


8. Equipment Check
If using a projector is part of your game plan, check all the equipment and rehearse your presentation, using this projector and computer long before your time to present. Make sure the necessary software is installed on the computer you will be using. Carry an extra projector bulb.


9. Check Out the Room
If possible, check the lighting in the room you will be presenting in, prior to your time in the limelight. Make sure you know how to dim the lights if the room is too bright.


10. Always Have a "Plan B"
What if your projector dies? Or the computer crashes? Or the CD drive doesn’t work? Or your CD gets stepped on?
For the first two scenarios, you may have no choice but to go with an AV free presentation, so have a printed copy of your notes with you.
Carry a backup of your presentation on a USB flash drive or email yourself a copy, or better yet, do both.

March 21, 2011

A Basic Guide to Conducting Effective Meetings


Meeting management tends to be a set of skills often overlooked by leaders and managers. The following information is a rather "Cadillac" version of meeting management suggestions. Keep in mind that meetings are very expensive activities when one considers the cost of labor for the meeting and how much can or cannot get done in them. So take meeting management very seriously.


The process used in a meeting depends on the kind of meeting you plan to have, e.g., staff meeting, planning meeting, problem solving meeting, etc. However, there are certain basics that are common to various types of meetings. These basics are described below.


(Note that there may seem to be a lot of suggestions listed below for something as apparently simple as having a meeting. However, any important activity would include a long list of suggestions. The list seems to become much smaller once you master how to conduct the activity.)


Selecting Participants
- The decision about who is to attend depends on what you want to accomplish in the meeting. This may seem too obvious to state, but it's surprising how many meetings occur without the right people there
- Don't depend on your own judgment about who should come. Ask several other people for their opinion as well
- If possible, call each person to tell them about the meeting, it's overall purpose and why their attendance is important
- Follow-up your call with a meeting notice, including the purpose of the meeting, where it will be held and when, the list of participants and whom to contact if they have questions.
- Send out a copy of the proposed agenda along with the meeting notice
- Have someone designated to record important actions, assignments and due dates during the meeting. This person should ensure that this information is distributed to all participants shortly after the meeting.


Developing Agendas
- Develop the agenda together with key participants in the meeting. Think of what overall outcome you want from the meeting and what activities need to occur to reach that outcome. The agenda should be organized so that these activities are conducted during the meeting. In the agenda, state the overall outcome that you want from the meeting
- Design the agenda so that participants get involved early by having something for them to do right away and so they come on time
- Next to each major topic, include the type of action needed, the type of output expected (decision, vote, action assigned to someone), and time estimates for addressing each topic
- Ask participants if they'll commit to the agenda
- Keep the agenda posted at all times
- Don't overly design meetings; be willing to adapt the meeting agenda if members are making progress in the planning process
- Think about how you label an event, so people come in with that mindset; it may pay to have a short dialogue around the label to develop a common mindset among attendees, particularly if they include representatives from various cultures.


Opening Meetings
- Always start on time; this respects those who showed up on time and reminds late-comers that the scheduling is serious
- Welcome attendees and thank them for their time
- Review the agenda at the beginning of each meeting, giving participants a chance to understand all proposed major topics, change them and accept them
- Note that a meeting recorder if used will take minutes and provide them back to each participant shortly after the meeting
- Model the kind of energy and participant needed by meeting participants
- Clarify your role(s) in the meeting.


Establishing Ground Rules for Meetings
You don't need to develop new ground rules each time you have a meeting, surely. However, it pays to have a few basic ground rules that can be used for most of your meetings. These ground rules cultivate the basic ingredients needed for a successful meeting
- Four powerful ground rules are: participate, get focus, maintain momentum and reach closure. (You may want a ground rule about confidentiality)
- List your primary ground rules on the agenda
- If you have new attendees who are not used to your meetings, you might review each ground rule
- Keep the ground rules posted at all times.


Time Management
- One of the most difficult facilitation tasks is time management -- time seems to run out before tasks are completed. Therefore, the biggest challenge is keeping momentum to keep the process moving
- You might ask attendees to help you keep track of the time
- If the planned time on the agenda is getting out of hand, present it to the group and ask for their input as to a resolution.


Evaluations of Meeting Process
- It's amazing how often people will complain about a meeting being a complete waste of time -- but they only say so after the meeting. Get their feedback during the meeting when you can improve the meeting process right away. Evaluating a meeting only at the end of the meeting is usually too late to do anything about participants' feedback
- Every couple of hours, conduct 5-10 minutes "satisfaction checks"
- In a round-table approach, quickly have each participant indicate how they think the meeting is going.


Evaluating the Overall Meeting
- Leave 5-10 minutes at the end of the meeting to evaluate the meeting; don't skip this portion of the meeting
- Have each member rank the meeting from 1-5, with 5 as the highest, and have each member explain their ranking
- Have the chief executive rank the meeting last.


Closing Meetings
- Always end meetings on time and attempt to end on a positive note
- At the end of a meeting, review actions and assignments, and set the time for the next meeting and ask each person if they can make it or not (to get their commitment)
- Clarify that meeting minutes and/or actions will be reported back to members in at most a week (this helps to keep momentum going).

March 4, 2011

Deir Mimas



Deir Mimas is a picturesque town 88 km southeast of Beirut in Lebanon. Named in honor of Saint Mamas, the town overlooks the Litani River and the medieval Beaufort Castle to the west and the snow-capped summits of Mount Hermon to the east.


Agriculture
In addition to the cultivation of grapes and figs, Deir Mimas continues to be a major producer of olives and olive oil.


Demography
The inhabitants of Deir Mimas are mostly followers of the Eastern Orthodox and Greek Catholic churches. One of the priests that served most of his entire life is buried at the back of the church in Mar Mama. His name was the servant of God Gerges Chammas. The location is behind the church to the east side. He devoted his life to serve Christ and his followers.


Etymology
Deir is derivative from the Semitic, meaning house or convent. Mimas refers to Saint Mamas, the third century shepherd who preached Christianity and had a lion as a protector. Saint Mamas became martyr after his examination in the persecutions of Aurelian. In the Middle Ages, a convent was built in honor of Saint Mamas on top of a hill surrounded by olive groves. A village grew around the convent, and it was eventually named in honor of the Convent of Saint Mamas. Therefore, Deir Mimas means "Convent of Saint Mamas."


Holidays
In addition to Christmas and Easter, the town celebrates the feast of Saint Mamas on September 15. Grand festivities are organized each year to honor the town's patron saint.


Highest Elevation 650 m
Lowest Elevation 550 m

February 25, 2011

Midlife Crisis


Midlife crisis is a term coined in 1965 by Elliott Jaques and used in Western societies to describe a period of dramatic self-doubt that is felt by some individuals in the "middle years" or middle age of life, as a result of sensing the passing of their own youth and the imminence of their old age. Sometimes, a crisis can be triggered by transitions experienced in these years, such as extramarital affairs, andropause or menopause, the death of parents or other causes of grief, unemployment or underemployment, realizing that a job or career is hated but not knowing how else to earn an equivalent living, or children leaving home. The result may be a desire to make significant changes in core aspects of day-to-day life or situation, such as in career, work-life balance, marriage, romantic relationships, big-ticket expenditures, or physical appearance.


Academic research since the 1980s rejects the notion of midlife crisis as a phase that most adults go through. In one study, fewer than 10% of people in the United States had psychological crises due to their age or aging. Personality type and a history of psychological crisis are believed to predispose some people to this "traditional" midlife crisis. People going through this suffer a variety of symptoms and exhibit a disparate range of behaviors.


Many middle aged adults experience major life events that can cause a period of psychological stress or depression, such as the death of a loved one, or a career setback. However, those events could have happened earlier or later in life, making them a "crisis," but not necessarily a midlife one. In the same study, 15% of middle-aged adults experienced this type of midlife turmoil.


Some studies indicate that some cultures may be more sensitive to this phenomenon than others, one study found that there is little evidence that people undergo midlife crises in Japanese and Indian cultures, raising the question of whether a midlife crises is mainly a cultural construct. The authors hypothesized that the "Culture of Youth" in Western societies accounts for the popularity of the midlife crisis concept there.


Researchers have found that midlife is often a time for reflection and reassessment, but this is not always accompanied by the psychological upheaval popularly associated with "midlife crisis."


For the approximately 10% of middle aged adults who go through an age-related midlife crisis, the condition is most common ranging from the ages of 40-60 (a large study in the 1990s found that the average age at onset of a self-described midlife crisis was 46). Midlife crises last about 3–10 years in men and 2–5 years in women.


Occurrence
A midlife crisis could be caused by aging itself, or aging in combination with changes, problems, or regrets over:
- Work or career (or lack thereof)
- Spousal relationships (or lack thereof)
- Maturation of children (or lack of children)
- Aging or death of parents
- Physical changes associated with aging


Midlife crises seem to affect men and women differently. Researchers have proposed that the triggers for midlife crisis differ between men and women, with male midlife crisis more likely to be caused by work issues. Some have hypothesized that another cause of the male midlife crisis is the imminent menopause of the female partner and end of her reproductive career.


Characteristics
At least some of the market for sports cars can be attributed to conspicuous consumption spurred by customers' midlife insecurities. Individuals experiencing a midlife crisis have some of these feelings:
- Search of an undefined dream or goal
- A deep sense of remorse for goals not accomplished
- A fear of humiliation amongst more successful colleagues
- Desire to achieve a feeling of youthfulness
- Need to spend more time alone or with certain peers


Insecurities go so far as to affixing the badge of an expensive sports car to a cheaper one, in an attempt to convey a false sense of success. They exhibit some of these behaviors:
- Abuse of alcohol
- Acquisition of unusual or expensive items such as motorbikes, boats, clothing, sports cars, jewelry, gadgets, tattoos, piercings, etc.
- Pretend acquisition of expensive items via non-authentic materials or automobile badge replacement
- Depression
- Blaming themselves for their failures
- Paying special attention to physical appearance such as covering baldness, wearing "younger" designer clothes etc.
- Entering relationships with younger people (either/or sexual, professional, parental, etc.)
- Placing overimportance (and possibly a psychologically damaging amount) on their children to excel in areas such as sports, arts or academics


Theoretical Basis
"The notion of the midlife crisis began with followers of Sigmund Freud, who thought that during middle age everyone’s thoughts were driven by the fear of impending death". Although midlife crisis has lately received more attention in popular culture than serious research, there are some theoretical constructs supporting the notion. Jungian theory holds that midlife is key to individuation, a process of self-actualization and self-awareness that contains many potential paradoxes. Although Carl Jung did not describe midlife crisis per se, the midlife integration of thinking, sensation, feeling, and intuition that he describes could, it seems, lead to confusion about one's life to date and one's goals.


Erik Erikson held that in life's seventh stage, middle adulthood, people struggle to find new meaning and purpose to their lives; their questioning, he believed, could lead to what we now call a midlife crisis.


Some psychologists believe men's midlife crisis is a psychological reaction to the imminent menopause and end of reproductive career of their spouses. Their genes may be influencing men to be more attracted to reproductive women, and less attached to their non-reproductive spouses.


Criticism
Some people have challenged the existence of midlife crises altogether. One study found that 23% of participants had what they called a "midlife crisis," but in digging deeper, only one-third of those—8% of the total—said the crisis was associated with realizations about aging.


The balance (15% of those surveyed) had experienced major life experiences or transitions such as divorce or loss of a job in middle age and described them as "midlife crisis." While there is no doubt these events can be traumatic—the associated grief reactions can be indistinguishable from depression -- these upheavals aren't unique to middle age and aren't an age-related midlife crisis.


University of California - Davis researchers Carolyn Alwin and Michael Levenson presented the current view of midlife crisis in a 2001 article:


Costa and McCrae (1980) found little evidence for an increase in neuroticism in midlife ... While they did find that some people were likely to experience such crises, ... these individuals were likely to experience crises in their 20s and 30s, and these experiences were not unique to midlife. ...Robinson, Rosenberg, and Farrell (1999) reinterviewed (500) men. Looking back over their midlife period, it became evident that while not necessarily entailing crisis, it was a time for re-evaluation."


Wrapping up their review of men's midlife crisis, Alwin and Levenson wrote that "... Given the bulk of the data, it is likely that, for most men, midlife is a time of achievement and satisfaction. For a certain proportion of men, however, the passage is not at all smooth." They found a similar pattern when they reviewed research on what are commonly thought to be triggers for women's midlife crisis: menopause, children leaving home, the "sandwich" of caring for both parents and children. Most women navigated those periods without a traumatic psychological "crisis."


The enduring popularity of the midlife crisis concept may be explained by another finding by Robinson et al. As Alwin and Levenson summarize: "... younger men, now middle-aged Baby Boomers, used the term "midlife crisis" to describe nearly any setback, either in their career or family life."


Levinson's findings were research about the possible existence of a midlife crisis and its implications. Whereas Levinson (1978) found that 80% of middle-aged participants had a crisis, and Ciernia (1985) reported that 70% of men in midlife said they had a crisis (Shek, 1996) others could not replicate those findings including Shek (1996), Kruger (1994), McCrae and Costa (1990), and Whitbourne (2010). The debate of whether or not there is a midlife crisis is being answered through recent research that attempts to balance such factors as response bias and experimenter effects in order to establish internal validity. The above mentioned research does not support Levinson's model of a single age in the middle years that is a designated time of transition and potential "crisis." Instead, changes in personality can occur throughout the adult years with no peak in general distress or psychosocial crisis (Whitbourne, Sneed, and Sayer, 2009).


For the most part, at all ages researchers in Positive Adult Development have found improvement or at worst, stasis for most of the population.


In Popular Culture
The midlife crisis has been the subject of many television series and films, often the source of amusement in sitcoms, soaps and other television productions. The 1970s Polish television series, Czterdziestolatek meaning "The 40-Year-Old" was entirely geared towards covering midlife crisis issues in a comedy series. In the Australian television series, Neighbours, Karl Kennedy went though a midlife crisis dating young women and changing his appearance.


While the classic 1955 movie The Seven Year Itch deals with the supposed decline of marital quality after seven years of marriage, the protagonist Richard Sherman (played by Tom Ewell) is obviously going through a midlife crisis. In fact, the book that proposes the seven-year-itch hypothesis, entitled "Of Man and the Unconscious", even has a chapter on "The Repressed Urge in the Middle-Aged Male: Its Roots and lts Consequences" connecting it to the midlife crisis in men. As an editor for a publishing house, Sherman reads – and reads into – this psychological study which he believes directly corresponds to increasingly erotic, frenetic, and ultimately frantic daydreams stemming from his flirtation with the new nubile neighbor upstairs (Marilyn Monroe in one of her most memorable roles).


Decidedly more serious takes on the subject include John Cheever's short stories, "The Country Husband" and "The Swimmer", shedding light on modern '60s era suburbia, as well as more bittersweet and timely turns at the turn of the millennium in the films American Beauty (2000 Academy Awards Best Picture winner) and Lost in Translation.


English progressive rocker, Roger Waters, formerly of Pink Floyd, also released a solo album, The Pros and Cons of Hitch-Hiking, which explores a man and his midlife crisis as he dreams of having an affair and tries desperately to find solutions to his problems. Similarly, The Kinks' songs, "Shangri-La" and "Clichés of the World (B Movie)", also appear to describe someone going through a midlife crisis.

February 9, 2011

Social Exchange Theory

S†MoN® says:
"Social exchange theory is based upon rewards and costs of a relationship. We base our decision to develop or maintain a relationship from the amount of profits that we could receive. Social exchange uses the equation: Rewards - Costs = Profits to figure out whether a relationship is worth the time. Usually, the typical person decides to pursue relationships where the rewards are greater than the cost. They understand that in order to get the rewards that there will be costs that they will have to deal with. Social exchange practice is based upon the degree of intimacy in a relationship. We disclose more and develop a closer relationship with the person we work with; we see him for numerous amount of hours a week, plan and act with him on tasks and develop campaigns from scratch. In the advertising world, such practice is observed to be essential between colleagues. The level of stress and frustration swallowed push each and every one to the limit. Individuals tend to crack under heavy loads of work and pressure. Therefore, time to unwind is very essential and vital. But we must not neglect that a person should have the ability to deal with others. Social exchange between colleagues positively affects the overall outcome and performance of a company. It also help increase the level of communication and talent of every party".